I read his name a few days ago. I didn’t know who he was. Now I do. I saw footage of a problem a few years ago. I did not know that it was still happening, nor how widespread it is.
I have read that there are various opinions about this information. There is always more to a story then what is shown. But I would rather know then not. If there is to be a dialogue of sides to an issue, then one needs to know what it is about.
They idolized her. They worshipped her. They were in awe of her. They lusted after her. They daydreamed of her, for she was the girl of their fantasies. What they didn’t realize is that she was smarter then that. She knew what this stuff was made up of, false illusions, false assumptions, cotton candy, something that wasn’t real, not tangible, for it would disappear when touched.
She could have taken the gravy train home. But she was more then that. She wanted what was real. She was good in heart, and not fake. She understood her role that she played, and why she was supposed to play it. But that wasn’t her. She read them like a book. More then that, she saw things that were incredulous at first. The map of psychology in the male mind and how it affected societal standards and business practices alike….The things they themselves did not see, could not see, would not be honest enough with themselves to admit, the tragedy behind the male subconscious and how they have a deep seated need to subordinate the female. It was sad. But it was an education. Her awareness taught her things, by watching, by talking, by asking questions, by observing everything that went on around her with other people and their actions.
She was attacked. She was beaten. She was raped, multiple times. She was harrassed everywhere she went. She was stalked. She was accused. She was torn. She was in disarray. For they cornered her, on every street, and every alley and byway. There was no place where she could be safe. They hunted her like a prize. They attacked her like an animal in heat. But she wasn’t. She was just a girl, dressed in a woman’s body. They encircled her, snarling at her, nipping at her heels. She pushed them away, but to no avail. For they had her pinned. Being violated and injured in day to day life, by those she loved, and those she scorned, took away every shred of security that she had within her being, until she simply shook, inside, non stop.
And so she finally learned how to fight back. And she hid. She went away, inside walls, that were thin. Too afraid to answer the door, too wary for a simple cup of coffee at the cafe, she locked herself in her little prison, and threw away the key. She was safe.
There is a secret not too secret lurking in America today. The rich or those who have enough, will have you believe that it is the most awful thing that has ever happened to our economy. But turn it inside out, and look again. The house prices have been dropping. Someone who bought a house for 425,000 dollars in 2003, could only sell it for about 145,000 dollars today. This is only a guesstamation, but an educated one. For those whose property value has dropped, this means that they are now stuck living in their homes and can not sell for how much of a mortgage that they took out. If they sold, they would be left owing 280,000 dollars on it. Understandably, they don’t like this. But it is a chance never seen before in this day and age in America you see.
Many milllions of people were left out of the market, priced out, even though they have a good job and have been working there for a long time. It was an unfair system for many could never own a home in America, no matter how hard that they worked. But now it is possible, for a window in time. It has been going on for a few years. Who is to say how much longer it may go on, no one knows. Right now it is possible to buy a house, if you can afford to pay rent on an apartment for 800 dollars to 1500 dollars a month. 800 dollars a month will buy a very small house, in an area of suburbia that is not so good. But it is possible. It is there. It can be done. 1100 dollars a month will buy a three bedroom two bath house that is nice. It just needs updates. But it is move in ready or almost. 1200 dollars a month and up will buy you a house with updates, shocking, I know. It does take about 7,000 dollars down, on average, and an excellent credit history. But if you can come up with money for the price of a car, and have been responsible enough to have an excellent credit rating, then right now is not the time to rent. Right now is the time to buy. Sshhh…don’t say I told you so.
But if you want to change your life, and are willing to live in the suburbs, right now is that once in a lifetime chance, that millions thought they would never see. So go for it, if you can. What are you waiting for? Prices to go back up? No? The economy is bad right now? Is that what you believe? The economy is bad right now because you can go buy that house for 145,000 dollars instead of 425,000 dollars. Who is saying that the economy is bad? Who is feeding you these one sided lies? Those who want you to only pay more. So if you can, take your chance now. It won’t be around for long. And then when the chance is gone, they will say that the economy is wonderful and you should go buy. Because then you will pay 280,000 dollars more. Oh yes, in case you didn’t know, if you borrow 145,000 dollars for a house, it is about 1,100 dollars a month mortgage. That is all fees and percentages included. The window might close in a few years or less, so don’t walk, run!
Over the years, she has received expectations from others in her life and around her, about her love life. They expected her to get married while young. They expected her to be second to her husband. They expected her to want this. She never wanted that. She wanted to be independant. What she has always desired is to develop her own life, with her own career, hobbies, and friendships. Then if she were to meet someone on equal ground, they could meet in the middle of their two lifes. She was expected to get pregnant. She was expected to be a mother. But she wanted to have her career first. There was no point in having a baby if she would be dependant on a man to take care of it. Then she would never be free. But if she could create her own career, and be able to take care of the baby herself, then and only then would it make sense to start a family, if she so chose. She was surprised that no one around her seemed to understand this delemma.
It’s not that she didn’t want children. But she understood that she did not have the security necessary to provide them and herself with a good life. Others expected her to want to find a man who had money. Millionaires threw themselves at her. She laughed and smiled in return. But none of them showed that they saw her as an equal. Nor did they show the character traits of goodness, kindness, loyalty, strength, devotion, persistence, patience, gentleness, understanding, that she was looking for. So she looked for a good man elsewhere. No where did she find what she was looking for, yet.
Some expect her to want a man to watch out for her. To her that would be weak. Of course if she had a serious relationship, she would need the man to be able to handle things in an emergency. But to “watch out for her?” This seems to be saying that women are weak, that they need a man. Of course a woman wants a man just in the same way that a man wants a woman. But to say “need” is something else. She purposely stopped dating at one point, for a very long time. She wanted to learn to be happy with herself without a man in the picture. It worked. Now she is. This is the strength necessary for a real, good relationship to be based on. For when a man can not be without a woman in his life, or vise a versa, well then, something is wrong indeed. Because it is a character weakness, which can be fixed. But if someone feels this way, then when they are in a relationship, they are going to be dependant on the other person emotionally. When someone is strong enough to be alone and to be happy by themselves, then when they have a relationship, they are there because they want to be rather then need to be. It’s a whole other dynamic.
Women are expected to be less then they are in other instances too, such as lifestyle and weight issues. If a woman is thin and good looking, people expect that she was born that way, not that she works out twenty to forty hours a week. When a woman is obese, then others expect that woman to always be overweight. They think that she should lower her expectations in life, in general. But a woman who is obese, can lose the weight, usually over a period of many years, and become the beautiful girl she once was. However, a woman can be beautiful and overweight as well. It usually has to do with exercise, hairstyle, makeup, and clothes. Older women can be strikingly beautiful also. But it usually takes a lot of work. Many stars in the media are ages thirty five to sixty years old, and they are quite beautiful. When this realization is found, most people assume that it took surgery. Sometimes yes, it did. But usually it took money for the materials necessary, and a lot of work which has to be a large part of their life. Every day citizens can do this as well. They just need to know how, and do it. They also need the money to be able to.
Women’s power is often based in their looks. In society jobs where it is necessary to be beautiful often pay much better then others. In some instances this is simply not true, like being a doctor or a lawyer, a city mayor, and such. But in general this is the rule. Therefore many women work hard to look good. They are paid well in the modeling and entertainment industries. Yet the appeal of the style the images project, if used in day to day life, rather then just for show, would be perceived as slutty. Girls grow up seeing these images and often want to look like this themselves. Then if they can and do, they want to show off their curves, and are rewarded by being objectified in society. They get harassed everywhere they go. There is something very wrong with this power play.
All of these things are interrelated. She wants to be seen as having the power to take control of her destiny. She wants to develop her own life on her terms. She doesn’t want to be objectified when she is beautiful. And she doesn’t want others to expect less for her when she is overweight. What she wants is to be seen in society as equal to a man. I don’t think she’s alone, for many women feel this way.
There is something which perplexes her. Down through the ages, and over the years, there have been so very many prejudices against others in the world, which has caused great wars and movements in history. Laws have been written to protect some who may have prejudices used against them, and cause them harm. Yet there are still many laws left to be written for others who yet still are receiving hatred and prejudice against them. There has been the women’s movement, the black movement, slaves have been freed, America was built with laws for freedom of religion. And yet there are still those who choose to hate others for simply being different than them. Sometimes they don’t even realize that they are prejudiced. Because those who are prejudiced believe that they are right to think badly of another person, simply because of their sexual orientation, or the color of their skin, what car they drive or don’t drive, what class they are born into, or any number of things. She has seen so much freedom and acceptance in her life of the very people who used to recieve so much hate directed their way, that she began to believe that prejudice no longer existed. Until she saw it first hand, in little comments to her, about others who are of a different culture, a different race and religion. Also she has herself seen much prejudice directed towards herself and others like her. Only for her she is not allowed to state that she receives prejudice for her skin color. Because several others who have been or are being prejudiced against for their own, now have a prejudice towards hers. They believe that white people are priveleged. They believe that by virtue of being white, that the world will be handed to those with that skin color, on a silver platter. However, this is simply not true. In her location, she is the minority. She has had prejudice directed at her for being female, for being blonde, and for being poor. Being poor could have held her back from job positions more then it has. But she knows how to pass. Being poor or lower class, usually comes with a type of accent, dress, and mannerisms. If she were to not have purposely spoken differently then what was natural to her, at one point in time, she would have lost out on two job opportunities. But unlike many others who she has seen not be able to change their appearance, mannerisms, or accent, and to be held back for it drastically, she has been able to do so. But it doesn’t last long. Eventually, they find out where she is from, where she lives, and just what her income is. Then the respect goes out the door, and the prejudice begins. She has also lost one job due to her skin color.
What perplexes her is this. That there are still prejudices today at all. She has heard hate, and mistrust, discussed openly between people against others who are Muslim, and others who are gay. She has a friend who is Muslim, and another who is bisexual. The person who was fearful of Muslims, actually believed that they are dangerous. She has a young friend who is one of the sweetest people who you could ever meet, who is Muslim. This young girl, is no one to be afraid of. Yet someone from this religion, brings fear into some from America. Why? Perhaps because they blame all Muslims for what has happened on 911. But it was not all Muslims who did this atrocity. Not only this, but there is direct evidence to the contrary, that they had anything to do with it at all, besides being hired from someone to do what they did. There is evidence that it was a planned demolition. Either way, whether or not some Muslims did it, planned it, or not, it was only a few. It was not an entire race. That is like blaming what Hitler did on all white people. There are some who disagree with the religion. But the majority do not hurt others by their personal religious views. Yes there are some who do. But these are only a minority, a small amount of people, compared to the many who hold those beliefs. Are we to blame all white people for any of the many atrocities that have occured at a white person’s hands? No, of course not. So then why blame others for what they themselves did not do? It is ridiculous.
And so is the idea that hate is a good thing to have against anyone who is different then what you believe. We are all human. We all have different beliefs. We also feel different ways then each other. It has been proven that gay people and bisexuals alike, feel those feelings even as young children. Just because someone may believe it to be wrong, does not make it acceptable to hate them for it. We all want to be accepted for who we are. But even on a deeper level, we want to have acceptance to be whoever we are.
There are some things, which can not be changed, whether some may think so or not. Not only that, but we all should be given the right, the freedom, the acceptance, to be whatever it is that we are or choose to be, as long as it harms none. If it isn’t hurting anyone else, then why be concerned about others who disagree with you? To feel a different way then the norm, or to be different, and to feel that pressure of someone else’s opinion against you, is a terrible thing to feel. To have to worry about others hate, how they may react, or how it may affect your job status or where you live, is just a terrible thing to do to anyone. Those who hate others should stop! Imagine if it was you. Imagine if it were your child. She is not saying to agree, no. We may all agree to disagree. We do not have to become like someone just because we accept their right to be whoever they are or choose to be. We can accept freely, others choice to choose differently. How selfish to believe that everyone is going to feel the way you do, or should. To agree to disagree, is the best way to be, in the matters of where any prejudice may be. Prejudice is hate, or fear. But to agree to disagree, when necessary, it releases the prejudice and nullifies it. Let freedom be.
What are we really fighting about anyway, in this land of the free? Among ourselves, democratic and republicans hash it out in the white house. How about life and death and everything in between?
Everyone wants to know about the new gadget, the newest invention, the brand new products on the shelves. But who is to say who is allowed to be the ones to invent, to design, to produce? What if 25% of the poor and poverty stricken had minds that were put to waste? Intelligence and ideas knows no class, no color, no age, it does not discriminate. But in America the ability to create ones’ own ideas, does discriminate. What if Isaac Newton were too poor to go to college? What if his ideas were never heard? If he were in poverty this is exactly what most probably would have transpired. How much farther ahead would America be if we were to not waste the great minds trapped in low income families?
Many who have climbed to reach great heights were poor to begin with. But how few are they of the those who could have bore the products never created, the philosophies never espoused? Genius doesn’t know what class you are born into. Can you imagine the frustration of living a life filled passionately with ideas which may never see the light of day? What would it be like to hear music like Mozart, or to have ideas for anything which could contribute to the greater society, and to not be able to ever make it become a reality, but for it to live on as an idea in one’s own head? How sad, how tragic, how wrong, how selfish, that the rich in our courts choose their own pocket book over human lives and human dreams.
Wanting to take food out of the mouths of babies and children just so that their taxes are not raised? These are the millionaires policy makers today who are doing just that. Maybe it is that they are afraid of the masses, of what would happen to their money if the rules were shared fairly? But I say if they are heartless and do not care about the class that is trapped in a cycle of life, where life can only be day in and day out and never any fulfillment, then of course they are beyond the pale. For there are isms to describe many things, racism, ageism, ableism, classism….Or is it that they don’t think that the poor have anything to give, to be, to do, to say, to create in this world this one life we all have to live in society? I dare them. Give IQ tests and tests of every creed to those born into the lower classes. Find a way to test their creativity.
And what about those who they have tested as being able to give to create something substantial to the world to history, and yet they are left to fall through the cracks because they are poor, indeed. And what would be so bad if they were allowed a way to climb up through the ranks, in the same equal measure as someone of a higher class would be? Would it be so bad to find new things in the history books and new wonders to delight one’s senses with? No, they would rather that the poor fellows and gals went right on doing what they are doing, wasting away what little life we are all given, trapped because of the rules built up to keep those imprisoned symbolically who are below certain income lines. Hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil… Ignorance is not bliss. To live with passion inside and to watch the years tick right by, when it is so short lived. Marilyn Monroe, did not know how short her life would be. We all deserve quality in our time to live.
To dream to live to become, that’s all they want to be.
Hate, hypocrisy, secrets, people who are different then you are, in this society…In years gone by there were witch hunts and the world was flat, or so they say. Lynchings, murdering innocent people, and the like….Has it changed that much, in this our world today? Fear and hate mongering, all for the “good of society,”… There are people killing people because they are gay. There are children killing the homeless because they think they are worthless in the alleys and the byways, cops killing those they are afraid of because they are just human too, and innocent people with mental illnesses being shot out of fear. If you have aids or are gay or mentally ill or any number of things that could make you different in our society, then it is best some might think if they keep it hushed out of self preservation and honor, being seen for who they really are, instead of the capitol A on their chest like in the bygone eras.
What if they prove that people are born gay? What if they prove that 90% of all mentally ill people are completely harmless? And what if we could no longer see color in this planet we live on in our little society? What if everyone were given a gift to suddenly understand the man in the subway, the boy on the train, the hobo in the alley, and everyone everywhere in between. Would we see evil? Would we see pain? What if we saw good in their hearts, weaknesses and frailties, strength, and gifts? What if some of our leaders and innovators in the past had secrets they kept locked up inside? What if the greatest inventors and those we know their name, liked to dress up in women’s clothes behind closed doors? What if they heard voices? What if they were gay? And what if they had done things that they were embarrassed by because they were bold, as young adolescent adults? How many have made no mistakes? Didn’t Jesus say those with no fault may throw the first stone? What if in the future many years from now they look back, and see us as barbarians for how we killed the innocent out of fear? They once thought the world was flat, how many things might we not know today? What if that fear endangered your child, your mother, your wife, your husband, or yourself? The numbers are probably skewed. How many famous actors might have skeletons in their closet? I bet the numbers are skewed. How many are gay? I bet the numbers are skewed. How many are sweet gentle souls who would harm no one and yet they are mentally ill? I bet the numbers are skewed. And how many today are hiding something tragic for fear of repercussions? I bet the numbers are skewed. And why? Because once we thought the world was flat, and so today, perceptions are skewed.
Staring at the computer and the office space around her, in a section of the kitchen, with the heat of summer already. She wants to say to those who will hear, this is not freedom. It’s plutocracy.
We are not free, at least if you are not of the wealthy class in America you see. Let’s not blame those who are born into wealth, it’s not their fault either. Sometimes they feel guilty subconsciously, which then perpetuates a need within themselves to explain and defend their position. They did nothing to cause this. Yet they can see, those who are not blinded by the hypocrisy, and numbed by their privilege. Wondering why they are allowed the freedom in this society, to have the money and the power to run senselessly in any direction they choose, or methodically. Knowing that others can not, and therefore feeling guilty, makes them want to excuse themselves by placing blame upon the victims of our society. For it surely isn’t their fault so then it must be the other persons’ the other class. Why else would they have so little and yet we have so much, they might surmise. Once rules and freedoms are given it is hard to perceive just how it would be to live with so little; what it would be like to live under different rules, and less freedoms, they can not understand. And by placing the blame for poverty squarely on the shoulders of it’s victims, leaves them free of the guilt within their heart for something invisible which they don’t understand. What they fail to see is that it is not their fault nor those caught up and born into poverty. It is the system upon which this country is built. It is the rules and the clauses, where money is spent and where it is not. Everyone always can see their own side, but to make things fair where the rules are stacked against an entire class simply has not happened. It has been perpetuated by our government and budget in this our society. Martin Luther King was killed not long after he had begun to turn to fight for the homeless, for the lower class, for poverty. He had accomplished much. And yet he had just begun to turn his energy to those less fortunate due to economics in this land ruled by plutocracy. Coincidence?